Week 2B · 4 of 8 · 2 min read
You can name a preference before deciding whether to share it. Perhaps you would welcome listening without suggestions, help that leaves you a choice, or company with room for quiet. The words can stay in your notebook.
This is a small choice about description. You do not need to settle what care should look like in every setting. Begin with something you would welcome in an ordinary moment, and leave the wider questions open.
One question
How would I describe a form of care I prefer in an ordinary moment?
One small practice
Choose a manageable setting, such as reading, finishing a task, or having a quiet evening. Name a form of care you would welcome there. Use your own words rather than a phrase that sounds especially reasonable.
Complete: "In this setting, I would welcome ____." You can stop after the line. No request, justification, or participation from another person is needed.
Use paper or a private note. Nothing needs to be submitted.
Your note stays in this browser.
Give this practice a place in your week.
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Questions people ask
Is this a script for asking someone to change?
The practice is a private description, rather than a prepared request. You can name what you would welcome without contacting anyone. It does not ask another person to respond or make a change for the exercise to be complete.
What if my preference changes with the setting?
You can keep the setting in the sentence. Wanting company during one activity and quiet during another does not need to be resolved here. The note can describe a preference for this moment without becoming a general rule.
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